I’ll be honest with you. I usually avoid hot topic blogs like this. Because honestly, I’m too tired for a debate. But friend, if this is debatable to you, I suggest you stop reading my blog.
I’m not going to be vague. I’m pro-life. And I think many people in my circle are. We spout out all these facts about babies being people right from conception. And about abortion being murder. We post photos of 12 week old babies. We talk about how they already have a heart beat. We scoff at the idea of it being illegal to ruin a bald eagle egg but killing a human is ok. We vote when we can. But what does that really do?
According to studies, more than 70% of women who have an abortion do so because of some sort of inconvience to their life. They can’t afford it. They want to finish school. They weren’t ready for a child (or another child). Having a baby would dramatically change their life… for the worse.
Mommies… does this break your heart? It breaks mine!
I have 2 kids. They are 15 months apart. I cannot count the amount of times I’ve heard “you have your hands full” or “is it hard?”. Yes! I do have my hands full. Yes! It is hard.
The hard makes it great. The hard makes it worthwhile. The hard makes it beautiful.
Marriage, family and kids are often the butt of jokes in TV, movies and social media. Just the other day, my husband and I were watching a TV show where the men were talking about how horrible it was to watch your wife in childbirth and how she’d never be sexual to them ever again if they saw it. I asked my husband what he thought about that. He said it was hogwash. But we allow these subtle media influences to affect how we feel about kids and families. We are being penetrated with messages telling us that having a family will ruin all of our fun! No wonder these women are scared to have their babies!
So here’s my question to you, mommies and daddies. Are you spreading a message of distress or a message of joy?
When your single or kid-less friends look at your family, do they see your kids are a major inconvenience that they would never want to burden their lives with? Do they hope and pray it’d never happen to them? Are you encouraging the image that kids are going to change their life dramatically, in the worst way?
Here’s my suggestion to you, Pro-Life families. Choose your words carefully. Are you complaining constantly? Choose your actions carefully. Are you always yelling at your kids? Choose your Facebook statuses, Instagram photos and quippy remarks carefully.
Not only will this be a favor to your own kids, but you just might save another kid’s life.