After Ben was born, I experienced another bout of Postpartum Depression and I really had a hard time keeping up with the normal things around the house. Because I have the most supportive husband ever, he offered to hire a house cleaner. He even set up a free consultation.
The lady showed up and walked around my house (no, that’s not uncomfortable at all… “Hmm… let me judge how messy you are…”) and explained what they would do.
First they would do the initial cleaning, it was a little more expensive because it was a deep clean.
Then they would come every other week and do the floors, the bathrooms, all those chores that I haven’t even thought of for months.
But then came the kicker. The house had to be picked up. They didn’t put away the toys, the random cups every where, the pieces of food left under the sofa… they didn’t do dishes or laundry… and if I left it, they would just clean around it.
I wanted to CRY! All I could think was “Great, now twice a month I have definite pressure to clean my house so that someone can come clean my house? If I could get the laundry and dishes done, and get the stuff put away, I wouldn’t need any help!”
I thought to myself…. I need a nanny. Someone who can help pick up, do light chores, watch the kids so I can shower or put my laundry away or start dinner. But I don’t want a full time nanny. I don’t want to pay a nanny, I don’t need a babysitter… I just need like… a helper. A Mother’s Helper.
You guys, do you know those exist?! Mother’s Helpers are a thing. So we got one. And it’s like we hired a Fairy Godmother. She’s an older lady, who was a preschool teacher and a nurse. She comes once a week for 3 hours. She comes at 9am, ready to help. She looks around. She greets the kids. If Charlotte has breakfast on her face, she grabs a wash cloth. If Matthew is doing a puzzle, she cheers him on. If I am standing there in my pajamas, with messy hair and holding a wiggly baby, she takes him out of my arms and loves on him. She helps with dishes. She makes lunch. She takes the kids outside to play. She does homeschool assignments I prepare. She puts away laundry. She plays board games. She vacuums and sweeps and wipes up messes. She gives me a few minutes to shower or clean the bathroom or hang up my clothes. She gives me a little adult conversation. And when she leaves at noon, my house is picked up, my kids are ready for their naps and I am relieved.
But do you know what I love best about her? She tells me I’m doing a good job. She watches me handle a situation with the kids and says “I like the way you handled that” or she sees our memory verses posted and says “Thank you for teaching them that!” When I serve snack, she says “You guys have a great mommy to make you such a great snack!” All day long, she tells me I’m a good mom and she tells what I’m doing right. And that, friends, is priceless.
I’m sharing this on my blog because I want you all to know there is help! There are people who just love kids and want to help. Sometimes they are young girls, who want to earn some extra cash (summer time is a great time to look!), college students who need something flexible, or retired grandmas who want to help. Ask around. This is an incredible blessing!
Get a little help mama! You are worth it.